Life Lessons as a Wife & Mom

25 Days of Thanks & Freebies

Ramblings from the past few months.

The past several months I’ve experienced MANY ups & downs.  Maybe you can relate to ups & downs. . . .

Your kids keep talking back
Your best friend does not discipline their children when they hurt your child
Your husband is not interested in spiritual things
Your family judges your decisions, especially in homeschooling
Your church does not pay attention to your sorrow or grief
You have no one checking on you when you’re struggling, in crisis
You feel alone

How can you overcome life's ups & downs ... especially if you're a mom or wife

You’re not alone!

So, what is God teaching me (or you) in these hard situations?

Most of all, God is showing me to be compassionate, offer grace, extend acceptance & be humble when circumstances seem to go south. (These are my ups!)   Sounds easy, but it is sooo hard for me.

What I’ve found is …

When I swallow my pride (my #1 sin), these character traits come a little more easily.
When I swallow my pride, I must depend on the Holy Spirit.
When I swallow my pride, I exhibit humility which is the basis of compassion, grace, acceptance, forgiveness & unconditional love.

To be honest, my nature is to argue, to point out my friends’ or family’s problems, or to offer solutions (disguised as encouragement, right).  What God is teaching me is to let things go.  Let them go & let God work.

It certainly isn’t easy. But I’ve been trying to look out for others’ interests more than my own. Maybe you can relate to this, too.

Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged. And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.    Matthew 7:1-5 NLT

I’ve always struggled with these verses because I am very judgmental. I want to figure out how to fix things or how to help make a situation better. As a leader, I want to change the way our Sunday School operated or the way our homeschool co-op was set up.  Or, I want to change the decisions my husband made in our family.  I was taking the speck out of someone else’s eye, instead of taking the log out of my own eye.

The past couple months, God is telling me that it’s not my job to fix situations, even if my idea might be better.  In putting down my offenses with others (leave alone the speck in my friends’ eye), God is showing me how to reach out to others in compassion. Forget their offense to me & accept who they are, offering grace.

Inspiring book about the Holy SpiritI can only change or control myself. I can never change someone else. So … I’ve been looking for ways I can love unconditionally, showing compassion, grace & acceptance. This flies in the face of our society.

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.  Romans 12:2

The only way I can not copy the ways of the world is through the Holy Spirit. I recently read an excellent book about the Holy Spirit working in me called Spirit Rising. I highly recommend it.

Next time, I’ll share ways I am not copying the behavior of the world.

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Question: How do you show humility & unconditional love? grace? compassion? forgiveness? (I’d love some of your real-life examples) You can leave a comment by clicking here.







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  1. I try to give thanks for the situation I struggle with. Don’t know how transparent you want me to be with my struggles.
    Just because I give thanks for it does not mean I agree with or condone the situation

    1. Alice,
      Thanks for your honest answer. Gratitude also helps me put my focus on how God has blessed me, instead of my problems. Have you ever kept a Gratitude Journal? I try to list 3 things each day for which I’m thankful.

    1. I’m glad it encouraged you. It’s a lot easier to say, than to put into practice…at least for me it is!

  2. Thank you for posting what you did today. I really needed to read that. I’m always trying to “fix” things. I’m struggling with my job and not in the sense of the children. They are always the most precious part of my day. I feel as though I’m getting overlooked and not understood in my position. I’m not sure how to approach what I have been stressing about for a while now. I will continue to pray for guidance and positivity. Thank you for your written words today. I really needed them. 🙂

    1. Lisa,
      Thanks for your honesty. I don’t know what you are experiencing, but God is the only one who can “fix” it. And prayer is your opportunity to come to the only “fixer”. I will pray for you and your situation.

  3. I’ve been part of a terrific program called Re:Generation that’s helping me work through these things in my own life. It’s basically a recovery program for anyone at all – for those of us who struggle with pride, people pleasing, unforgiveness, fear of man, anger, nxiety, etc….the list goes on and on. It’s really helped me target and work on my own “junk” and see my need for Christ in each and every situation. Kerry, your series on your life lessons has been reflecting so much of what I’ve been learning in Re:Gen – just what I needed to hear! Thank you for these posts!

    1. Ashley,
      Thanks so much for your comments. My church has a group called Celebrate Recovery. It’s for similar problems as you mentioned, in addition to addictions. As my pastor said CR (or Re:Gen) is for EVERYONE because we are all broken people. But our society (& church) has a very hard time admitting we have issues; we think we can do it on our own. Only through our loving Savior can we overcome our issues and glorify God.

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